“Stop crying like a girl.” A very disturbing yet a very common phase that’s been overheard numerous times in our society, emotions what are they?
A mental state variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure to understand, ability to know the sentiments as described by wikipedia has now become a major curse to majority of the male population due to the growing expected ways to behave based on the gender criteria, and our societal orthodox values being the root cause of it. But why? As a woman of era that believes in equality, justice and rights, portraying my feelings openly is one of the privileges that I got to experience, but in the other way around, it seems so far fetched, a concept that is still so forbidden.
Traditionally, being labeled as a superior gender might be beneficial, but what’s the use of it when all it gives is the air to the rising misandry, meanwhile the essence of the manhood is crippling beneath all the socially constructed boundries. And do I become less of a woman when I become vulnerable, do we become less of ourselves, do we lose ourselves in it’s process? But often why male emotions becomes the death of them when they display it and why still no one talks about it.
Why men aren’t taught it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to feel and its okay to not to be okay all the time. Fierce doesn’t always mean fearless, something not everybody complies with, but should understand. Let’s become unapologetic in our evolution that to feel is a blessing in it’s own, a human gift that everyone should be well aware of irrespective of any gender they belong to.
When you use phrases like stop crying like women to young boys, it doesn’t only disregard their feelings but also personifies how women are weak, which they are not and the impact of your use of misogynistic words in their developing mind is ever lasting. Encourage these young growing minds that they should not hold back or hide themselves and shouldn’t have their guards up because of the prejudice they have been facing from generations.
Next time when someone opens up about anything they have been contemplating whether to speak or not, just listen to them, understand that it took them great, great courage to show you their unarmed side of them, stop being judgemental and blaming society for it because society is also you.
लेखक : Santosh Lamichhane
मिती : November, 2018
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